STRONG BONDS

Last week Jennifer and I took a much needed and well deserved trip alone ! It’s been over two years since we’ve gone on a trip alone ! We’ve had date nights and done a lot of other things to keep our relationship strong , however a trip hasn’t been in cards for quite sometime! I decided to change that and took her on a trip of beach and surf fun to our new favorite quick drop spot in Port Aransas TX!

Now I’m not going to go all into our adventure on this one , however I wanted to touch back on what I feel is important in any relationship! I truly believe and always have , that strong bonds are crucial no matter what relationship you are dealing with ! Whether is a marriage, or friend , or a child ; strong bonds between the two of you are very important! We all have things in common! That’s not what I’m talking about! Bonds are described as small jesters to keep a relationship strong! So this would intel that the two or more people are close ! Daily involved with each other in some way! For example most people find jennifer and I odd , because we spend an insane amount of time together! It’s not a trust thing nor a insecurity thing! We just truly are each other’s best friend! We have literally been to hell and back with each other ! And yes we can spend time apart and do very regularly! But this is the very thing I’m describing here ! One must be in contact with the other quite often in order to know the other or others !

Secondly; to have a strong bond the other or others must be willing to sacrifice or yield up something for the other ! A strong bond can only exist is both parties are willing to both give and receive! Receiving is just as important as giving ! If you never allow the others to give you things or you aren’t an easy recipient, it can have a negative effect on the others around you!! Like I use to think it’s a sign of charity or weakness, however I was wrong ! In a way this was me yielding up something for the love of my life ! My pride !! She’ll probably disagree and tell you I still have my pride , but I see progress!!!😂😂😂😂! So keep an open mind and heart in the relationship as much as possible!

Thirdly ; a strong bond must have forgiveness in them ! The ones that get close learn intimate details about the other persons ! And when things get heated for whatever reason, they come out in some way or another ! There must be an open door of communication and forgiveness in order to move forward in any relationship! How do I know ?? I mean I’ve only been married 16 years …..not very long right ?? But like I’ve said Jenn and I have been through a lot in our short lives !! Forgiveness took us the longest to work through and I think I can speak for both when I say we are a work in progress still! Give it all you have and if it’s worth having then it’s worth the work !

My mission is only to uplift and encourage! I’m not here to know it all or judge ! I only want people to have the most they can out of life and seek all the full potential they can out of every area ! It’s short and we only get one chance or shot at it! The last thing we need is leave this world with regrets and alone ! So for whatever cost it takes find the bonds that are worth having and make them as strong as you can! Be willing to forgive, know intimate details about them but only to strengthen the relationship, and be full of give and take in your heart ! It won’t be easy but I promise it will be worth it!!

RIDING THE WAVES

If you think about it our lives are full of ups and downs ! Good times and bad times ! Struggles and victories! Happiness and sadnesses, and year after year we are expected to keep moving forward ! If we don’t we will be consumed by all the negative and drowned by the consumption around us !

My family lately has encountered another new activity to add to our Arsenal! On top of hunting , fishing , hiking , and constantly searching for adventure; we have taken up surfing! Which I’m only for certain will lead into snowboarding as well , cuz skateboarding has already joined the mix ! Which being a huge part of my past , I had some influence in lol! I cannot however think of how much surfing and life run hand in hand !

For example , to get out to where you need to be to catch the right waves , you must paddle out on your board! As the waves are rolling towards you , there are two techniques you can use to get past them ! One is to position yourself and flow over them , or a method called duck diving ( or going under the waves by forcing your board under water )! If you don’t and just sit still the waves will overpower you and knock you off your board and your consumed by the waves ! This has happened to me many times while trying and struggling to master the art of surfing! But if you keep at it , the other two techniques will come to be second nature to you!

Just like in life you must find your way to get to where you are going ! There is no book, no written instructions, no Cliff Notes; it’s simply just hard work and many failed attempts! There is however tons of friends and advice along the way ; and God knows how many people who will tell you how they do it ! But in the end you must find your own way ! You will be faced with many obstacles and hardships ! You will want to quit and give up! However: I can tell you there is nothing that will compare to the feeling of conquering these waves and learning how far you can really go when you apply yourself!

Life is nothing more than riding the waves ! You can either learn how to get out to the right spot and catch a wave and ride it for all it’s worth; good or bad ; and have fun : or let them beat the snot out of you and tuck your tail between your legs and head in a drowned rat ! The ups and down can be your demise or your tool to rise above your expectations and accomplish more than you ever thought possible! You were created in the image of God , to be more than a conqueror! So if your not conquering, then your not living up to your fullest potential! Arise , go and ride the waves and see what you can do !! (pictured is pro surfer Griffin Colapinto )

Embracing Change

In life we are faced with many different situations and struggles! Some I like call intermittent, others are more steady, while others only happen once !! If taken as a whole they overwhelm us ! This in turn can lead us to handle in inappropriate or unhealthy ways ! Such as drugs , drinking , adultery, or many other forms of outlets we have to select from on this earth! However : I feel like when we breath and break it down for it really is , then we are able to process things in a more purified light , and then go onto handling them properly!

For example : THE ONCE IN A LIFETIME

This is a issue or even a life changing event ! Like a death in the family , divorce papers , or something major that can only usually happen once in a lifetime! If looked at compounded with let’s say your child getting into trouble at school and sent home ; this could send us over the edge! But if we stop and separate the two , then view them differently we can process them without loosing our minds ! No one especially God is out to get you or punish you! We had a similar situation here recently when my mom decided she was tired of fighting her illness and we brought her home on hospice! This is definitely something you can only do once , and compiled with the other intermittent things popping up , and daily things that we in my house refer to as”LIFE“….it got crazy ! No we probably didn’t handle it perfectly, but we did help each other process each day better than we would have without looking at each individual thing!

When we step back and view the issues that arise in the light they are intended to be seen in , then we can proceed in handling them correctly ! When we go to taking them all in and putting them into one basket , then we begin to feel like the black sheep, like we are being punished and the. We begin to slip into the devils trap of separating ourselves from God ! I know I’ve been there many times ! The. I had to sit down and basically build myself a list of Life , Intermittent, and O.I.A.L issues and when they occurred, even at the same time I’d have to break them down individually! Now I will admit my wife walked me through this more than once ! Trust me I’m the last one on the planet that ever wants to admit he needs help! But I truly couldn’t have done this without her help!!

Which brings me to the closing line here !!! Find you a trusted confidant ! They don’t have to be a spouse , family member , or even a close friend ! Sometimes someone close is good and other times it’s not! But it needs to be someone you can depend on to be there no matter when you need them ! Because the first two or three weeks are going to be true hell on earth as you transition! They need to be dependable! They also need to be someone you know you will listen to ! Someone you cannot just push away easily or that will give into you once things get tough! I have found that once you have done these two things ….. you can begin to move on with your life in a more productive, happier, and vibrant manner !! You were created for so much more than just work, kids , and bills! Don’t let the issues that occur in this time here on earth be limited to dealing g with problems and their repercussions!! Whether it’s the enemy trying to keep you down or just plain life happening , you are more than a conqueror in Christ Jesus !!

#OVERCOME

TJ